Motherhood isn’t easy. If anyone told you it was they were lying to you. It truly takes a village. I’m not just talking about a village to help mold your little one’s life but a village to help you, the mom, during this ride. You need to be sure that you keep your friends close to you during this time. Whether those are the friends that you’ve had since you were in the first grade, met when you were four at Sunday School or more recently in a mommy group where you commiserated about your kids not sleeping through the night. These women will be your tribe. They will help you in ways that you don’t even realize. They’ll be the shoulders that you’ll cry on when you’re at your wits end and they’ll sit with you over a cup of coffee or glass of wine when you need to just have someone present with you.
I’m not taking anything away for your spouse, partner or family. If you are fortunate to have these people present in your life, they are important in a different way. Girlfriends are different. There is an unspoken bond of understanding. They will answer that text at 11pm or 4:30am when you can’t sleep because they’re up too. They will drop by with a Starbucks when you can’t leave because your child has been hit with the latest virus and you’re stuck close to a bathroom.
To all of you in my tribe, thank you. It has been a heck of a ride for me so far but I’m just grateful to have you all in my life. Thank you for being a friend.